I read all the best love stories by the age of sixteen, I thought I had found my salvation. By my senior year in high school, I felt like I had already had my share of crappy dating experiences, from the kid I dated freshman year who insisted on always wearing his varsity jacket when he had lettered in nothing, to the junior prom where I thought my best friend was secretly in love with me when he asked to be my date, only to publicly find out that was not the case. These experiences could have sucked, except, as I learned from all my single role models, from the hapless love stories to the outwardly glamorous and inwardly crazy Sex and the City ladies, dates should suck. It seemed to me, that the more intelligent and self-possessed a woman, the less she can navigate traditional boy-meets-girl setups. But that's all part of my charm, until I find the guy who falls in love with me.
A week or so back I had a friend talk to me about when women want a One Night Stand.
As always, I dug deep and asked some single women in my network about their thoughts on a One Night Stand.… Every female I spoke with I pretty much got the same responses from all. Out of all the women, maybe 2 had never had a one night stand BUT said they had considered it and attempted it a few times. From the other women, each of them used the words “I decided…” when describing their one night stands. I thought this was really interesting. This was interesting to me, cause what I think I discovered from my questioning was that most one night stands for women are PRE MEDITATED!!! Or at least women like to think so.
When it comes to one-night stands, men and women are poles apart. Guys just want, well, you know, while gals go to bed with the false impression of flattery and a craving for a feeling.
Most women when having a one night stand pre meditate it. The most common excuse is coming off a broken heart, insecure and wanted to just DO IT cause they thought it would shake the sad feelings. Never a good idea. BUT we tip toe into it anyway… Why? Because it’s fun, exciting, we go with the night and feel really, really good!!!! These are guys you meet while your out and there is an instant, fun and exciting connection. They aren’t guys who ask about your job or family during your meeting. They are guys who are light, exciting and just plain old fun! Ones who pull you into a world of excitment and enjoyment. It almost seems fitting to make out with them and be part of a fantasy world.
Sometimes, that is all women are looking for! A great guy to blow off steam with!
NOW FOR YOUR WARNING FRIENDS!!!
There are some people that you will not want to have a one night stand with because of the possible repercussions. At the top of this list is your co-workers. Your place of employment is great for meeting people to have relationships with, but a one night stand with a co-worker could make any future interactions with the two of you awkward. Other people to avoid when looking for a casual night of fun are friends, friends of your family, friends of your friends and especially friends' exes. These sorts of flings can come back to haunt you in numerous ways.
In conclusion most women are not hooking up in an effort to secure a long-term relationship, but because they feel flattered by the overnight proposition.
The next day they were mistaken.
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